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Registration date:  12/12/2021 01:58:31
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Biography: The problem arises because you want to reject them.Be brave. What nonsense!How can an intelligent man avoid fears?If you are stupid you will not have any fears.Then the bus driver goes on honking and you stand in the middle of the road, unafraid.Or a bull comes charging at you and you stand there, unafraid.An intelligent man has to jump out of the way.If you become an addict and start looking everywhere for the snake in the bushes, then there is a problem.So when I say that you will get rid of your fear, I don’t mean that there will be no fears in life.You will come to know that ninety percent of your fears are just imagination.Ten percent are real so one has to accept them.I don’t make people brave.I make them more responsive, sensitive, alert, and their alertness is enough.They become aware that they can use their fears also as stepping stones.So don’t be worried, mm?Why am I still so scared of exposing myself?To expose oneself creates great fear.It is natural, because to expose oneself means to expose all the rubbish that you carry in your mind, the garbage that has been piling up for centuries, for many, many lives.To expose oneself means to expose all one’s weaknesses, limitations, faults.To expose oneself ultimately means to expose one’s vulnerability.Behind all this garbage of the mind and the noise of the mind there is a dimension of utter emptiness.One wants to hide this nakedness, this emptiness, this ugliness.One covers it with beautiful flowers, one decorates those covers.One at least pretends that one is something, somebody.What will people think about me? From your very childhood you have been taught to wear masks, beautiful masks.To transform your face is arduous.To paint your face is very simple.Now suddenly to expose your real face gives you a shivering in the deepest core of your being.Will people like it?Will people accept you?Will people still love you, respect you?If I suddenly become naked, are they still going to love me, respect me, appreciate me, or will they all escape away from me?They may turn their backs, I may be left alone.Hence people go on pretending.Out of fear is the pretension, out of fear arises all pseudoness.One needs to be fearless to be authentic.Just the opposite happens when you hide something.It needs the whole of nature available to it.It can grow only with truth, it feeds on truth.Stop giving it its nourishment and it starts getting thinner and thinner.And people are starving their reality and fattening their unreality.Your unreal faces feed upon lies, so you have to go on inventing more and more lies.To support one lie you will have to lie one hundred times more, because a lie can be supported only by bigger lies.So when you hide behind facades the real starts dying and the unreal thrives, becomes fatter and fatter.If you expose yourself the unreal will die, is bound to die, because the unreal cannot remain in the open.It can remain only in secrecy, it can remain only in darkness, it can only remain in the tunnels of your unconscious.If you bring it to consciousness it starts evaporating.That’s the whole secret of the success of psychoanalysis.It is a simple secret, but the whole secret of psychoanalysis.The psychoanalyst helps to bring up all that is inside your unconscious, in the darker realms of your being, to the level of the conscious.So it is a very limited exposure, but still it helps.Not even your psychoanalysts are completely psychoanalyzed, because the exposure itself is very limited and with conditions.The psychoanalyst listens to you as if he is not listening, because he is not to tell it to anybody.But even then it helps, it helps tremendously to unburden.
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